Non-Traditional Ways to Get Married
…if you're not looking for that big wedding
So, you just got engaged — OMG CONGRATULATIONS! You may have always thought about the kind of wedding day you might have with your partner, or maybe what you thought you wanted years ago just doesn’t feel like you anymore.
That’s okay!
Just because the traditional wedding day might be all you know (or all your friends and family might know), doesn’t mean you can’t do things differently to make your day exactly what you want it to be. As a 2023 bride myself and intimate wedding photographer, I know what it’s like to want to feel all the moments and also not feel any of the stress. Here are some non-traditional ways to get married if you’re not looking for that big wedding.
Elope
This one may have been what you first thought when you read the title. But let’s be real honest — eloping means doing what you want to do…just you two. You have the opportunity to make it exactly what you want. Itching to say your vows over a mountain top? Do it. Want to get married at city hall and enjoy an all-you-can eat brunch buffet? Or maybe a pizza dinner at Pizzeria Regina? Do it. The limit does not exist (Mean Girls reference, anyone?) as long as you have the required documents and a witness to make it legit.
Have a destination wedding
Destination weddings don’t mean just Europe or another country. It can be anywhere you don’t live (by definition). But if there’s a place that means a lot to you and your partner or a place you want to explore together, that can make for an amazing wedding celebration - big or small…and most certainly not traditional. If you’re inviting friends and family, many may turn it into a mini-vacation. It’s a great opportunity to spend some extended time with all the people you love. Just make sure to designate some time with your spouse — it is still your wedding [weekend] afterall.
Plan an intimate or micro-wedding
If you want your favorite people around you on your favorite day, I highly recommend planning an intimate or micro-wedding. You can keep the traditions you want and value (I.e. a first dance, a family member walking you down the aisle, etc.) and toss the ones that don’t work for you. This can be as simple as an intimate dinner and exchanging vows or just a smaller version of a traditional wedding. You can still have all the moments, and less stress.
Combo-up!
Get the best of both worlds and elope or have an intimate celebration one day and throw the party of the year with more friends and family another day. This way everyone can feel part of it and you get to focus on each celebration.
Ultimately, do what feels like you and your partner. Make your own rules. And if you’re not sure how to make your day what you want it to be, let’s chat! I’m happy to be a resource for you and your partner as you navigate this exciting time!
